over and above

it really means alot having friends to go through tough times with..sometimes it's time like these that binds the hearts of like minded together stronger ..

i processed and thought through the situation after the discussion and sharing. i asked myself what can be done? what should i be doing? if i can't change, then what else should i be doing?

i remember this little excerpt from a poem i thought my children during a character camp once..

" i will bear the things i cannot change, and change the things i can"

somehow after talking it through with dearie, i came to terms that tpl is something i cannot change..and although i cannot do much, i prepare myself mentally for anything she comes up with. from learning her different "patterns" that my friends have encountered, somehow it preps me that if she show her pattern again, i am not caught off guard and i needn't get affected by it. it's like getting vaccination! =) staying level headed and calm is important to stay afloat.

can you remember the last time you swam in a pool or sea? in the sea, the more we struggle, the faster we sink..the only way to keep ourselves afloat is to stay calm and relaxed. our bodies are made to float in water..and we can be over and above the situation.

i remembered a pastor shared once, "difficult people in our lives are Grace Developers".. indeed..we learn that in the toughest times we learn to develop grace =)

i do find ranting and sharing really therepeutic..because i know i am not alone.. life still must go on..and to come to terms and decide what we must do about the situation .. i believe for us, we can choose to be over and above the situation. =)